The importance of self happiness

Self happiness is important in everyday life to move forward with life. Recently I just finished my first year of college and I have learned a lot about happiness. Through this blog I will be covering different things that you can do in college to get happiness.

I thought it would be a good to overview what I learned the first year about loving myself as my first post.

First, let me start off by saying  I chose a smaller school, close to home. This was the best decision for me academically as I focus better in small class sizes,  also the best decision because I am a family person couldn’t imagine life without seeing them every week (yes I’m that girl and I’m proud). I was excited to start my new chapter, even though my main friend group was splitting up and going to different schools I knew we would keep in touch. Going shopping with my future roommate that I knew from high school for dorm decorating was the most fun thing about planning for college. My side including monograms, sparkles, and sweetness.

Now to the not so glitz and glam of college no one tells you about.
I didn’t really set any expectations for college. All I knew was that I wasn’t suppose to skip classes, do well, remember to feed myself, and have fun. I didn’t imagine myself alone in my dorm room wondering when I was going to make friends, I didn’t imagine myself doing something as simple as opening social media scrolling through and seeing people I knew were having more “fun” than me. I did really well academically first semester, but wasn’t doing well in other part of my life. I came obsessed with the idea I picked the wrong college.Everyone else on my social media, text messages, and on my sometimes not so often coffee dates with old friends was having the time of their life in college so what was wrong with my college?

I felt like I was literally starting over.

I spent a lot of my time hanging out with my family and boyfriend, joined a sorority, but like anything it takes time to feel like you belong anywhere. I had lots of potential friends when joining my sisterhood but for some reason wasn’t connecting and I would say distance myself. I stopped texting people because I thought they didn’t care about me.

So why am I sharing this and where am I going with this?

During Christmas break I changed my thinking quite frankly everything about college. I stepped back and realized it wasn’t my college that was making my college experience crappy, it was ME. I was so consumed in other people’s lives I wasn’t caring about myself.  LOVE YOURSELF. So here’s four things I want to share. 1. It’s really okay to not know what you’re DOING. I’m currently undecided with a major, which is sometimes scary. I sometimes feel like I’m just taking classes while everyone else has known since kindergarten they wanted to be a nurse. That anxiety slowly went away when I let myself actually believe I have time, I’m 19 years old. I’m not becoming a millionaire over night.2. Accepting change is GOOD.  I hate change, if you’re a person that loves change I praise you. Life is going to change, simply as that. I have learned might as well accept it. 3. Form healthy friendships and relationships. This one is simple. 4. Don’t get so caught up in social media. Once stepping back, I stopped caring about seeing posts made on social media. As many of you know I love love love  instagram. You can catch me looking up new themes, poses, and captions on pinterest all the time. We all have that one thing we like to do in our free time this is mine!! So like I said before I saw people and would constantly say wow they look like they are having fun. You can’t get caught up in that fake reality, that is a small piece of someones life that they are sharing with the world. Someone recently told me that someone might be looking at my instagram and saying wow I wish I was having as much fun as her. Make your own fun, post as often as you want, and make sure to live the moments you are taking pictures of.
“Nobody can make you happy, until YOU make YOU happy.”